This Is How You Think - Mindset Habits for Personal Growth
Here's how to stop doing the stupid sh*t you know is bad for you but can't seem to stop doing.
This Is How You Think breaks down the emotional patterns keeping you stuck, using analytical precision to help you understand exactly what's happening in your mind - and what to do about it.
Perfect for high-achieving women who feel like they're falling apart, constantly experiencing emotional highs and lows, or constantly put everyone else first.
Host Jule Kim - certified professional executive coach, imposter syndrome specialist, and author of Self-Love Affirmations - combines legal reasoning with psychological insight to decode why you do what you do, especially when it makes no logical sense.
This podcast tackles real challenges like:
How to stop people-pleasing without feeling guilty
Why you sabotage your own success (and how to stop)
Setting boundaries that actually stick
Dealing with imposter syndrome and building real confidence
Breaking free from family patterns and cultural expectations
Emotional regulation when everything feels out of control
...and more
This podcast showcases a unique approach to mindset to help you learn to recognize your patterns, understand their origins, and actually change them.
Move from self-doubt to self-acceptance, and ultimately to the confidence and resilience you deserve.
Whether you're navigating workplace dynamics, family relationships, or your own inner critic, This Is How You Think gives you the tools to understand yourself at the deepest level and create lasting change.
New episodes weekly.
Subscribe now and start understanding how you tick.
Episodes
23 episodes
People Don’t Know the Real You Because You Won’t Let Them: Masking to Belong
Masking and people-pleasing often start as survival strategies in childhood, but over time they become the only version of you that people ever see. I break down how I used intelligence and helpfulness to earn belonging for decades without real...
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Episode 22
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10:43
Your Unmet Needs: The Real Reason You Can’t Stop Self-Sabotaging
Unmet emotional needs are the invisible saboteurs behind some of our most frustrating patterns. I'm talking about the stuff where you know exactly what you need to change and you still can't do it. In this episode I'm ge...
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Episode 21
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16:24
The 4-Step Formula for Boundaries That Actually Work
Setting boundaries in relationships is one of those things most of us were never properly taught. In this episode, I break down what is a boundary, my 4-step formula, and how to actually set boundaries without being mean with family, friends, a...
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Episode 20
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11:28
You Built the ‘Right’ Career. So Why Does It Feel So Wrong?
Why finding your purpose feels impossible: If you have no career direction, feel trapped by the golden handcuffs, and don't know what your next step is, I get it. I spent 39 years cycling through careers I didn't enjoy before I finally found my...
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Episode 19
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19:19
The Real Reason You’re Not Confident in Job Interviews
If you keep getting interviews but not offers, the biggest problem may not be your qualifications. In this episode, I break down the scarcity, desperation, impostor thinking, and interview mindset mistakes that make strong candidates come acros...
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Episode 18
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16:13
What is a Friend? Why Making Friends as an Adult Feels So Hard
Adult friendships are complicated, and figuring out what friendship means as you get older is something most of us are just winging. At some point, you start losing friends, or realizing the ones you have don't quite fit anymore, and you're lef...
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Episode 17
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29:43
Why You Can’t Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
How to stop comparing yourself to others: why the comparison trap is actually a safety problem.If you've been stuck in unhealthy comparison and wondering why do we compare ourselves to others even when we know it's bad for us, this episo...
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Episode 16
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19:52
Why Social Media Is Ruining Your Relationships
Relationship advice from Reddit gets a lot of things wrong. As a coach who works with couples and individuals on communication, boundaries, and emotional patterns, I break down three of the most common relationship posts and unpack what people ...
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Episode 15
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14:57
I was Toxic. Here’s What Actually Changed My Negative Mindset
Overcoming a negative mindset, and how I turned my toxic negativity around. If you’re stuck in a negative mindset and you’re tired of nothing changing, this episode gives you a tool that actually helps. I’m taking you through the exact method I...
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Episode 14
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18:30
You Make Good Money… So Where Is It Going? (Money Mindset Mistakes)
Women and money mindset. If you're a high-earning woman wondering "why can't I save money," you're not alone. The women and money conversation rarely addresses what happens when you're smart, educated, and still struggling financially.
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Episode 13
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1:16:38
You're Not “Learning,” You're Procrastinating
Fear has many faces. Procrastination disguised as learning is one of the biggest traps holding smart, capable people back. If you’ve been bingeing courses, reading books, and calling it “growth”...but not taking action, this episode breaks down...
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Episode 12
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16:41
Why Success Still Feels Empty (Even When You Earn It)
If you’ve ever hit a big milestone and thought, “that’s it?” - this episode is for you. I’m breaking down why success can still feel empty, why you might struggle to feel proud even after achieving something meaningful, and how imposter thinkin...
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Episode 11
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17:55
2025 Broke Me: What I’d Do Differently Now
In this deeply personal year-end reflection podcast, I’m sharing the truth about what it was like to live through the hardest year of my life. If you're navigating grief, burnout, chronic illness, or financial stress right ...
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Episode 10
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17:19
New Year Goals: How I Finally Built Habits That Stick (with ADHD, Autism, and Zero Motivation)
If you struggle with consistency, habit building, or following through on goals—especially if you have ADHD or feel like traditional goal setting doesn’t work for you—this episode is for you.I’m talking about habits, routines, and why I ...
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Episode 9
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26:09
You’re Not Stuck. Your Ego Is Running the Show with Chardét Ryel
If you’ve ever caught yourself making a decision that felt off—like it came from a place of fear, proving yourself, or ego, this episode is for you. I’m joined by my very first guest on the podcast, the incredible podcast visibility coach Chard...
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Episode 8
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52:38
You Keep Jumping to Solutions. That’s Why Nothing Changes (part 2)
Healthy emotional processing is more than just “feeling your feelings” - it’s a critical skill most of us were never taught. If you’ve ever rushed to fix a problem because that's what you thought you were supposed to do, or found yoursel...
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Episode 7
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14:01
Why You Can’t Just Move On - And What to Do Instead of Emotional Avoidance (part 1)
Why is it so hard to leave situations we know deep down aren't right for us? Whether it’s a relationship that’s run its course or a job that drains us daily, many of us find ourselves stuck—unable to move forward even when the decision seems ob...
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Episode 6
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17:36
Why Feeling Grateful Can Be Difficult: How to Practice Gratitude (Do This First)
We've all heard the same gratitude tips a thousand times. Practice daily gratitude. Keep a gratitude journal. Name three things you're thankful for. Simple, right?And yet, people don't actually stick with their gratitude practice. At lea...
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Episode 5
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19:16
Mental Toughness vs Mental Strength: What's the Difference? When Does Toughness Become Toxic?
What is mental toughness? What is mental strength?Mental toughness can help you survive almost anything — but at what point does it start to cost you?In this episode, we talk about the line between mental toughness and menta...
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Episode 4
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25:58
How to Handle Family Criticism Without Losing Your Mind (Especially During the Holidays)
Managing family interactions during the holidays while protecting your mental health. Family criticism. Hurtful comments. Emotional triggers. If spending time with your family often leaves you feeling tense, angry, or not enough, you’re not alo...
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Episode 3
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17:45
How to Build Confidence that Actually Lasts: This is Why You Don't Feel Confident
If you’ve ever wondered how to build confidence or why it seems to disappear the moment things get hard, this episode is for you. We’re unpacking what most personal development advice gets wrong when it comes to how to be confident—and why the ...
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Episode 2
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13:16
People Pleasing: Why You Stay In Bad Relationships and How to Finally Break the Cycle
The inertia trap: When you know it's wrong but stay anyway.That feeling when something's off, but you can't explain why. You tell yourself to be grateful, to stop complaining, to just keep going.If you've ever stayed too long—in a...
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Episode 1
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17:59
0. This Is How You Think w/ Jule Kim - Trailer
This isn't your typical feel-good podcast. Jule is ready to show you the truth, have some direct conversations, with zero fluff. Each episode digs into how your mind actually works - why it keeps you stuck and what you can do about it.If...
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Season 1
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Episode 1
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