This Is How You Think - Mindset Habits for Personal Growth
Here's how to stop doing the stupid sh*t you know is bad for you but can't seem to stop doing.
This Is How You Think breaks down the emotional patterns keeping you stuck, using analytical precision to help you understand exactly what's happening in your mind - and what to do about it.
Perfect for high-achieving women who feel like they're falling apart, constantly experiencing emotional highs and lows, or constantly put everyone else first.
Host Jule Kim - certified professional executive coach, imposter syndrome specialist, and author of Self-Love Affirmations - combines legal reasoning with psychological insight to decode why you do what you do, especially when it makes no logical sense.
This podcast tackles real challenges like:
How to stop people-pleasing without feeling guilty
Why you sabotage your own success (and how to stop)
Setting boundaries that actually stick
Dealing with imposter syndrome and building real confidence
Breaking free from family patterns and cultural expectations
Emotional regulation when everything feels out of control
...and more
This podcast showcases a unique approach to mindset to help you learn to recognize your patterns, understand their origins, and actually change them.
Move from self-doubt to self-acceptance, and ultimately to the confidence and resilience you deserve.
Whether you're navigating workplace dynamics, family relationships, or your own inner critic, This Is How You Think gives you the tools to understand yourself at the deepest level and create lasting change.
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Episodes
33 episodes
The Rainbows in Grief: One Year After Losing My Brother
This episode is about grief showing up in your body, why your feelings can hit long before your mind understands why, and how a grief anniversary can knock you flat a year later when you think you’re finally okay.In this episode:
Quit the Negative Self-Talk ASAP: The Science Behind How Your Words Create Your Reality
Despite all the negative self-talk running in my head, for years I figured the whole “watch your words” thing was a load of bullsh*t. Then about three years ago I came across research showing that emotions have a recipe, and ...
The First Step to Confidence (Real Work My Coaching Clients Do)
How to build real confidence is one of the most common goals people come to me for, and the truth is that it starts with self-trust, not with the affirmation cards and power poses you find on Google. The real work is excavating your past to fin...
The One Question That Stops Self-Sabotage
Okay, so this is me pulling back the curtain on the public speaking anxiety and self-doubt that almost made me say no to the biggest talk of my career. I'm taking you through the whole mental spiral, the panic before I walked on stage, and the ...
Why Accepting Compliments Feels Like a Trap
If you can’t accept a compliment without downplaying it, deflecting it, or chalking the whole thing up to luck, this episode is for you. I sometimes do the same thing, and for a long time I had no idea why owning my own accomplishments felt saf...
How to Stay Calm When Everything Goes Wrong
Here's how I stopped overreacting when life falls apart, and why learning to stay calm under stress isn't a personality trait you're either born with or not. I just spent three days trying to get home from Europe, and watching every...
Conflict Resolution: The Hidden Reason Someone Might Be Upset (Communication Skills 2)
If you’ve ever wondered how to de-escalate a conflict with someone who won’t let it go, or why your apology isn’t landing even when you mean it, this episode is going to give you a real answer. Most people try to fix the feeling, but the actual...
How to Talk to Someone Who’s Emotional Without Making It Worse (Communication Skills 1)
Most of us mess up difficult or emotional conversations because we try to fix the wrong thing. Someone’s upset, and we hand them a fact, a logical explanation, a different perspective, and then we wonder why they get more frustrated or just shu...
The Video I Made in 10 Minutes Beat Everything I Overcomplicated
A video I made in ten minutes beat the ones I spent hours on.That forced me to face something I didn’t want to admit: a lot of what I called “hard work” and “progress” was just overcomplicating the real work.In this episode:
Why You Struggle to Apologize (and What It’s Costing Your Relationships)
Most people who never learned how to apologize don't even realize that's the problem. I grew up in a Korean household where apologies never happened, so I spent years refusing to apologize without understanding what that was doing to my relatio...
Masking to Belong: People Don’t Know the Real You Because You Won’t Let Them
Masking and people-pleasing often start as survival strategies in childhood, but over time they become the only version of you that people ever see. I break down how I used intelligence and helpfulness to earn belonging for decades without real...
Your Unmet Needs: The Real Reason You Can’t Stop Self-Sabotaging
Unmet emotional needs are the invisible saboteurs behind some of our most frustrating patterns. I'm talking about the stuff where you know exactly what you need to change and you still can't do it. In this episode I'm ge...
The 4-Step Formula for Boundaries So You Stop Feeling Like a Doormat
Setting boundaries in relationships is one of those things most of us were never properly taught. In this episode, I break down what is a boundary, my 4-step formula, and how to actually set boundaries without being mean with family, friends, a...
You Built the ‘Right’ Career. So Why Does It Feel So Wrong?
Why finding your purpose feels impossible: If you have no career direction, feel trapped by the golden handcuffs, and don't know what your next step is, I get it. I spent 39 years cycling through careers I didn't enjoy before I finally found my...
The Real Reason You’re Not Confident in Job Interviews
If you keep getting interviews but not offers, the biggest problem may not be your qualifications. In this episode, I break down the scarcity, desperation, impostor thinking, and interview mindset mistakes that make strong candidates come acros...
What is a Friend? Why Making Friends as an Adult Feels So Hard
Adult friendships are complicated, and figuring out what friendship means as you get older is something most of us are just winging. At some point, you start losing friends, or realizing the ones you have don't quite fit anymore, and you're lef...
Why You Can’t Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
How to stop comparing yourself to others: why the comparison trap is actually a safety problem.If you've been stuck in unhealthy comparison and wondering why do we compare ourselves to others even when we know it's bad for us, this episo...
Stop Taking Relationship Advice from Strangers on the Internet
Relationship advice from Reddit gets a lot of things wrong. As a coach who works with couples and individuals on communication, boundaries, and emotional patterns, I break down three of the most common relationship posts and unpack what people ...
I was Toxic. Here’s What Actually Changed My Negative Mindset
Overcoming a negative mindset, and how I turned my toxic negativity around. If you’re stuck in a negative mindset and you’re tired of nothing changing, this episode gives you a tool that actually helps. I’m taking you through the exact method I...
You Make Good Money… So Where Is It Going? (Money Mindset Mistakes)
Women and money mindset. If you're a high-earning woman wondering "why can't I save money," you're not alone. The women and money conversation rarely addresses what happens when you're smart, educated, and still struggling financially.
You're Not “Learning,” You're Procrastinating
Fear has many faces. Procrastination disguised as learning is one of the biggest traps holding smart, capable people back. If you’ve been bingeing courses, reading books, and calling it “growth”...but not taking action, this episode breaks down...
Why Success Still Feels Empty (Even When You Earn It)
If you’ve ever hit a big milestone and thought, “that’s it?” - this episode is for you. I’m breaking down why success can still feel empty, why you might struggle to feel proud even after achieving something meaningful, and how imposter thinkin...
2025 Broke Me: What I’d Do Differently Now
In this deeply personal year-end reflection podcast, I’m sharing the truth about what it was like to live through the hardest year of my life. If you're navigating grief, burnout, chronic illness, or financial stress right ...
New Year Goals: How I Finally Built Habits That Stick (with ADHD, Autism, and Zero Motivation)
If you struggle with consistency, habit building, or following through on goals—especially if you have ADHD or feel like traditional goal setting doesn’t work for you—this episode is for you.I’m talking about habits, routines, and why I ...
You’re Not Stuck. Your Ego Is Running the Show with Chardét Ryel
If you’ve ever caught yourself making a decision that felt off—like it came from a place of fear, proving yourself, or ego, this episode is for you. I’m joined by my very first guest on the podcast, the incredible podcast visibility coach Chard...